I am kind of in the same boat as OP and I did come across Nextcloud. But how reliable is Nextcloud hosted by some other org/company/person? Aren’t we running away from a company hosting our data to another company hosting our data?

Kinda shows how what’s up has evolved over the years

What’s up - WhatsApp sup - Sup

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How are they achieving this? Something can’t be done with Lemmy due to load